And they lived happily ever after…

 

Hey fashion treasures,

    I thought I’d hit the blogapshere again after an interesting day of male formed drama and ask the question whether we need a guy in our lives to make us happy, whether faitytales really do come true? And whether there is such a thing as living happily ever after? Maybe fairytales are beautiful to look at on the outside but in reality are rather dangerous and fill our heads with ideals, perfectionist hopes when really life just hits us as it comes.

   I mean we are introduced to barbie and baby dolls as a child which at the time playing dress up and cut the barbie’s hair was beyond exciting (not to mention dangerous sneakily stealing the scissors) but looking behind that is this telling us something about the woman we are meant to be? The woman we are going to be?  Are we meant to be moulded into the caring mother, the perfect housewives with all these mini cookery sets, crying babies that we asked Santa to bring once upon a time? Or are we to determine our own futures? Our own careers potentially? It’s always strange to think about how young girls are given dolls to play with as a mini statement of what is expected of them in the adult world… or is this not the case? Guys are given cars, (hence their fascination), footballs, train tracks… what is that saying about them? Is that saying they’ll be the traditional husband who drives a fast car, works hard all day and spends more time with the lads playing football than at home with us or have we moved on from this? Are we in a new age now?

  Are the toys we give children now outdated? Where is the girl’s football? The guy’s baby doll? And if being a mother and a housewife is what I am to be by the power of cultural expectations then surely my degree means nothing… Of course,  I do hope to be a mum one day and a wife but does this mean us girls will have to give up our careers and interests in order to do so? Can we not have the best of both of worlds? Or maybe society is changing and moving away from the traditional value of a family unit into the life of a singleton.Tables for one, movie nights in alone… maybe that’s where society is headed? It seems rather sad when you put it like that but maybe it’s a case of we are content with ourselves and happy living our own lives that we don’t need someone else to complete it.

   I was recently told by someone that life isn’t always perfect and that we can’t have expectations for meeting Prince Charming and living happily ever after but I disagree. I truly believe that people can make their own happy endings and that part of the journey of a fairytale is finding your Prince. Yes, fairytales have some flaws in reality but I assure you girls they can come true. You only have to look at that cute old couple sat on the bench overlooking the beach to see that it really can happen. I think a lot of the reason that sometimes it doesn’t is because people have lost this belief and as I was always taught it is better to see the glass half full than half empty. There is someone for everyone out there, it’s just the matter of finding them and we do live in a rather big world so bumping into Ryan Gosling is rather slim but you’ve got to rely on chance and luck a little as well as venture on out there; go through break up, heart ache, numerous dates to find that person. But ultimately you can find Mr Right (sometimes he’s right in front of you) and you can live happily ever after, you’ve just got to believe you can.

  Muchos love,